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Is Coaching Your Own Child a Good Idea?

Coaching Sports to Your Children

Posted by Jodi Murphy
Some sports parents would jump at the chance to coach their own youth athletes. After all, they spend plenty of time playing catch or tossing balls for batting practice in the backyard and are at every game already, how much harder is it to be the actual coach? But before you dive headfirst into the world of parent-coaches here are four questions you should ask yourself.

Are you sure you won’t be biased?

A lot of parents decide to become parent-coaches because it’s a great way to spend more time with their youth athlete. Any sports parent can tell you that athletics takes up a huge chunk of their child’s free time so if you can’t beat ‘em, coach ‘em! But it’s important to remember that you aren’t just coaching your own child—you’ve got a dozen other kids to look out for as well. You need to make sure that every player is getting the attention they need to learn the fundamental skills of the sport and succeed as individuals and as a team. Just because you’re the coach that doesn’t automatically mean your child is the center of the team!

Is Coaching Your Own Child a Good Idea?

It’s also important to make sure that you don’t let your own player get away with behavior that their teammates would get called out for. If missing a practice means losing playing time that rule has to apply to everyone—including the coach’s kid.

Will you expect perfection?

On the other side of things—in an attempt to make sure they aren’t unduly favoring their own child, some parent-coaches put extra pressure on their own youth athlete to excel and be perfect on the field/court. While it’s important you don’t let your own player get preferential treatment, it’s easy to swing too far in the other direction as well. Some players might thrive as the “coach’s kid” because they want to be a leader on their team but others might feel like you are unfairly singling them out or expecting more from them than their teammates. Just because you’re the coach that doesn’t automatically mean you child is going to be a superstar athlete and it isn’t fair to expect them to turn into one overnight just because you decided to take over as coach.

Sports Coaching Your Kids

Can you “turn off” your coach mentality?

As a parent-coach it’s important to remember that you are equal parts parent and coach. When you go home after a disappointing game are you going to strategize like a coach and run a play-by-play of everything that went wrong or are you going to put your parent hat back on and let it go? Think about some of the crazy coaches you had in your own sports career—would you have wanted to live with them?! A good parent-coach needs to be able to switch back and forth between the two roles as needed.

Do you actually know the rules of the game?

Most youth sports organizations are always on the hunt for volunteers and while enthusiasm can take you a long way a little knowledge can’t hurt either! Typically the best youth sports coaches are going to be the ones that understand the rules and fundamentals of the game so they can actually coach their team! Remember, you aren’t just coaching your own child—you’re responsible for the athletic development of a dozen or so other kids! It’s a big responsibility and an important factor to consider.

Becoming a parent-coach can change the dynamics between you and your youth athlete dramatically, so before you sign up to coach your daughter’s soccer team or your son’s lacrosse team it’s probably worth talking to them about it. Are they going to be comfortable with you as their coach? Your 5 year old probably won’t care but as your kids get older and they start to take sports more seriously their opinion should count for something.


As a full time soccer coach personally I would say no for one reason only.
Kids see the game differently to their coach. Accordingly, for what ever reason if ‘Little Jimmy‘ has a poor game but you decide to still select him for whatever reason for the next game then usually no problem.
However if the same scenario involves your own son then immediately the other playerds will view this simply as favoring ‘Teachers Pet‘ and it will be the lad who suffers.

Posted @ Friday, January 04, 2013 11:56 AM by dennis


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Winning is Great, But Youth Soccer Must be Fun

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Competitive sports are a very strange phenomenon in the modern world.  We love sports, especially soccer.  Here is a game where people of all ages can take the field, kick a ball around, and enjoy themselves.  But too often in sports, a massive emphasis is placed on winning, and soccer players and coaches lose site of the overall goal, which is to simply have fun.  Make sure that your soccer team enjoys playing the sport, regardless of the score, because in youth soccer that is by far the most important thing.

Refrain from berating children who have made mistakes in the game.  Yes, it can be painful to watch a three goal lead slip away, but don’t single out a player for blame.  Chances are they already feel miserable about what happened and pouring salt into the open wound will just ruin their day.  Instead, give the young player a pat on the back and tell them to keep their head up.  Soccer is about confidence, and in young players who are just beginning to play the game such confidence is often remarkably frail, so help them move on from their mistakes, laugh it off, and keep enjoying the game.  These things happen.

I think a big problem with coaches and parents is that they live vicariously through their children on the soccer field.  When little Johnny Jr. scores a goal, grown-up Johnny enjoys it even more, and when Jr. loses the ball and the other team scores, guess what.  Johnny suffers in the pain as well.  Sometimes parents let their kids know those feelings and hurt the kid’s pride after the game, but that is entirely the wrong thing to do. As a child, don’t you want pleasant memories of your soccer playing days?  If you constantly berate your kids, they will only remember the pains of mistakes and will start to resent not only soccer, but also you.

So keep it fun!  Focus on the good plays that your soccer players make, even if they are few and far between.  Not only does praise make people feel better inside, but it also helps boost esteem, and this will often lead to improvements on the field and a greater love for the game.  When players develop and age they can view their own game from a more levelheaded vantage point.  In older years, it can be more beneficial to point out errors, but when it comes to the children you need to make youth soccer as enjoyable as possible.

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LA PUENTE SOCCER HAZING MESS GETS UGLIER | Bill Carroll - KFI AM 640 More Stimulating Talk Radio


Two of the victims in an alleged sexual hazing incident at a California high school are claiming they were attacked by as many as 10 varsity soccer players and assaulted.

The two alleged victims, whose voices were altered and names not released, told HLN‘s Dr. Drew Pinsky Monday night they were assaulted by more than the four teens who were cited in the incident at La Puente High School east of Los Angeles.

One of the boys told Pinksy he was jumped by the group of at least 10 older players in a storage room and sexually assaulted. He said the teens asked, “Do you want it the easy way or the hard way?”

The second boy said he was also attacked by six or seven players in the storage room, but managed to escape.

On Monday, the four teens were cited in the incident and ordered to appear in court next month. One is 18 and graduated this year, while the others are under 18. 

Detectives have interviewed more than 70 people since school started this fall, Los Angeles County sheriff’s Sgt. Dan Scott told The Associated Press Monday.

The teacher coach for the soccer team was placed on paid leave, Hacienda La Puente School District Superintendent Barbara Nakaoka told reporters.

Scott said detectives were aware of the suspension, but detectives so far had no proof of his involvement.

The alleged hazing occurred last spring before school ended for the summer.

Detectives have talked to people associated with the school as far back as 2003, Scott said.

“But there is no indication anything occurred that long ago. We are looking at the last couple of years,” he said.

Attorney Brian Claypool held a news conference Monday saying he was representing four students. He said the players had just made the varsity team and were hazed by older team members.

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Join for a FREE Summer Olympic Opening Ceremony Viewing Party at the U.S.S. Midway, Friday, July 27 –

Join for a Free Summer Olympics Opening Ceremonies Viewing Party on the US Midway

Join for a Free Summer Olympics Opening Ceremony Viewing Party on the U.S.S Midway, Friday, July 27 at 6:30 pm

Join for the Olympic Opening Ceremony Viewing Party at the U.S.S. Midway, Friday, July 27 at 6:30 pm

  • An opportunity to meet the 2012 BMX Olympic Team before they leave for London!
  • Take photos with a real Olympic torch and meet Olympians and Paralympians
  • Archery demos from Chula Vista Olympic Training Center resident athletes
  • Join in on a juggling contest with members of the 2012 Paralympic Soccer Team
  • A Kids Zone presented by the YMCA of San Diego County from 6:30 – 8:30 pm with rugby, field hockey, soccer, gymnastics and fitness stations
  • Interactive displays

Visit and/or click here for more information!

  • No admission charge!
  • British food and drinks available for purchase
  • CVOTC athletes will have reserved seating in the USOC section
  • Lightweight lawn chairs are allowed and feel free to bring blankets, too!
Local BMX Olympic Team

Local BMX Olympic Team


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